Mother & Baby Bonding

I never imagined in a million years what it in reality felt like to have a (biological) child. The emotions I have felt since the beginning of my pregnancy up until currently are more than anything I can really explain. I feel connected in a strange way to other mothers. It's like they feel it too. So I'm trying to put into perspective the mother baby bond in relation to the love a husband and wife share. It's hard because my husband and I have been through so much in the last 5 or 6 years. We had a heap of joy and stress placed on our lives upon receiving the 4 children (at once) and then going through a pregnancy and additional birth. We aren't as spunky, fun, light hearted, or romantic as we used to be. I really miss that side of us and I fear it has been dimmed by the daily stresses and demands of our current situation. Is this side of our relationship going to be messed up forever? I hope we can get it back. I'll say that we have a pretty solid marriage ...however, neither of us are finding a way to keep it nourished. It's hard work taking care of 5 little kids...and then to add their special needs and my physical issues, along with Drew's school/career stress...ugg. It's like we can't get our heads above the water long enough to stop and enjoy each others company. I bet bringing children into a marriage changes marriage for just about everyone.